Respect The Queen

Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence. I am your host Ms. Roni and I always seek to give you exquisite cranial repetoire. A single word can reveal what someone really thinks about Black women and it is not always pretty. I’m pulling apart the gap between the media image of Black women and the everyday reality: educated, creative, resilient, and constantly expected to carry more while being respected less. Starting with the meaning of Black Girl Magic, I talk about why self-love can feel like protest when your body, your choices, and your existence get policed in public and online.

From there, I get into the Love and Hip Hop town hall on MTV and the deeper history behind comparing Black people to animals. If you are still treating “monkey” like a throwaway insult, you are missing the violence baked into that language. I also share why accountability has a standard: the apology should be as loud as the disrespect. A polished PR response is not the same as a sincere acknowledgment of harm, and people can feel the difference.

I also challenge the money talk that keeps showing up in pop culture, including the idea that a man paying one bill should silence a Black woman’s standards. We can want love and partnership without shrinking ourselves, and we can reject stereotypes without excusing disrespect. If you care about Black women representation, media literacy, and real cultural accountability, press play, then subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway.

Transcript

Welcome And Theme Setup

SPEAKER_02 0:07

Hello everyone. Welcome to this week's Indie Artist Music Hustle with Blaine Intelligence. I'm your host, Miss Ronnie, where I always seek to give you exquisite cranial repertoire. This week I am going to talk about a couple of things that kind of well don't kind of that tie in together. One is about the image of black women is not the reality of who black women are. And I wanted to talk about the love and hip hop town hall that MTV had. So I'm gonna be reading some notes, and you'll see me looking down a lot or you know, looking at paper or whatever, because I did take some notes to talk about this.

What Black Girl Magic Means

SPEAKER_02 0:56

So I read an article by a lady named, I want to say her name is Jeannie Asterhilt. She wrote this article in December of 2021, and it was talking about black girl magic. So, black girl magic is a black girl or a woman known for her realness, love, and the way they rally around each other. When she sees a black woman, she sees a revolution, a fundamental change in organization. To be black and a woman is to wake up every day in your body to be policed about your skin, about your gender, and even your own existence, and that loving yourself is a protest.

Media Stereotypes And Recent Headlines

SPEAKER_02 1:43

And so I thought about that when I read that, and with all that has been going on in the media with the the the Tyler Perry thing, the twerking on the red carpet, the monkey situation, it's it's just been a lot. So who can say that loving yourself is a protest? Only a black women woman can say that. Tyler Perry, Plough, and certainly not Funky Dineva can speak for black women. So I was reading this article and it it pointed out some things that black women are survivors. Black women are killed at a rate as almost three times as our white counterparts. Yet when we are missing or murdered, there are no calls for our safety. We are more likely to die giving birth. Even more than that, I commented

Money, Respect, And Online Comments

SPEAKER_02 3:05

on. His name is Plies. I love to watch him, he's so funny, but he had something on about um if something about if the man has enough money, then the woman shouldn't complain. I don't know where this ideology came from, but I commented and I said, you know, I don't kiss anybody's ass to get along with their face. And just that quick, another dude came in caping for him. I guess I don't, I'm just was saying what I was saying. And he said, Well, you don't have to worry about that because he's rich and he wouldn't talk to anybody like you anyway. I said, Oh well, I said, I still won't kiss anybody's ass to get along with their face. And I put a smiley face. And I said, You have a good day because you're dismissed. You're dismissed, baby. Because how are you going to say what a black woman should have because the man has money? So Beverly Bond owns Black Girl Rock, started in 2006 to showcase empowering images of black women of color. So I remember watching Black Girls Rock on um BET, they had an award ceremony, and they was like, we just need to let the young girls know that black girl rocked. And I was like, Well, yeah. And it never, I guess, occurred to me that people did not understand how brilliant black women are. I I I you know, according to the American Association of University Women, 64.1 percent of black women have bachelor's degrees, 71.5 percent have masters, and 63.8 percent have PhDs in 2021.

Love And Hip Hop Town Hall Breakdown

SPEAKER_02 5:26

Which brings me to the spice and Erica Mina Love and Hip Hop Town Hall situation. As successful as black women are and all the accomplishments that they have made, people will still try and reduce successful black women to a black blue monkey. Now, a lot of people, because I watched the blogs and how people was reporting, and I decided that I wanted to wait and see what was gonna happen and everything. And what I want to say is I appreciate the fact that Yandy was like, Well, if you don't know, let me try to educate you on this. So I think that aspect right there cleared up the people who were saying, Well, she might not have known, or she might have helped out this, or whatever. I feel like that as a friend coming to you telling you something like that, that you should be receptive to hearing what they're trying to say and how you have offended people. And I feel like that wasn't it, it's not that I don't feel like it wasn't the case. No, I do appreciate MTV for bringing the town hall to the forefront. People needed to be educated on the history of the the the slur calling black people a monkey. That is just oh, it is okay, and and and they needed to be educated about the emotions that's evoked behind using that those particular words. So these are my thoughts.

Apologies, Accountability, And History

SPEAKER_02 7:19

The apology should be as loud as the disrespect, the apology should have been as quick as a response to a post. The apology should have had grammatical errors as the response post did. So that brings up another thing that people was like, well, the publicist wrote that. It's not sincere, it's not that. Okay, in that long post, there were a lot of misspelled words, grammatical errors, and there were none in the apology for which it could have been edited and proofread by somebody, but it's just it don't have the same temperature. So I'm gonna say this despite the history of oppression and exclusion, because not only I I thought about watching the color purple one time and the character Mr. that was played by Danny Glover when uh what was her name? So not what Sophia, what was uh Whoopi Goldberg's character name? I can't remember right now. Ugh, I can't remember right now, but when she was leaving, because she was like, Sug, I'm going with you. And she was leaving, and he was like, What you gonna do? You you black, you ugly, and you a woman. And I was like, what did he mean by that? Because I was a little girl. I was like, what do you mean by that? You black and you a woman, you ugly. What is he talking about? So I just want to say, just to be clear, do not refer to black people as monkeys. They are not animals, especially black women, and I don't think that the network had been portraying black people as animals, maybe some ignorance, but not animal. So that right there in that post, I mean that was shoot yourself in the foot, the toe, and the other one. Because you're stepping not now is beyond black women, and you're

Black Women’s Innovations And Value

SPEAKER_02 9:44

fighting against your own bag. Let me tell you what black women are. Black women are the ones that designed the device that refined the laser cataract surgery. We are the ones that played an enormous role in internet technologies. We are millionaires by creating cosmetics and hair products and designing clothes and making music and uh graphic designs and beats and all kinds of things. What they say, stop light, peanut butter. I mean, so many things. We are the ones that patented the software that assisted with equal employment opportunities. So, no, we are not monkeys, and black women deserve more than an electric bill being paid, Mr.

Tyler Perry, Provision, And Equality

SPEAKER_02 10:48

Tyler. The Bible said equally yoked, and that the woman is supposed to be the helpmate. So, on top of being called a monkey, I'm gonna listen to this. On top of being called a monkey, then you're supposed to accept that this man only can pay an electric bill and take you out to eat every now and then. And it's supposed to be, baby, it's okay if I cover the mortgage, if I cover the car notes, if I cover the insurance, if I cover the gas bill, the water bill, the groceries, the health insurance, all of that, as long as you treat me right. I where's that equally yoked and being the helpmate? Where is that at? Because, Mr. Tyler, you do all of these movies and plays and everything, and your theme is supposed to be something that's supposed to empower the black people, but yet it's supposed to be okay. The electric bill comes once a month. How often is this man supposed to be getting paid? Where are we supposed to be living at? What kind of car are we gonna be driving? Is it gonna stop down the street or am I gonna be able to make it to work from out of town? If something goes wrong and and I lose my job, it's gonna be like, huh, I lost my job. And he's gonna be like, Oh, baby, I lost my job today. It is far time over. Black women have proved themselves educated, beautiful, have their own. They deserve the best. The best, not an electric bill being paid, not to be called a monkey because these men, I don't know what they are wanting, but obviously, the black men is giving these other women, these other men, and even black men uh the the leeway to disrespect black women. Stop it because we are all of that, and the the the coleslaw flavored Lay's potato chips that Lay's hadn't got back with me yet on all of that. So I am going to leave it at that. I think that as long as that post was, the apology should have been as quick as when the pop when the the the post was released, and as long as the the um the response was, and then on top of that, I caught this when the agent was talking uh to Miss Mina and said, Oh, we got you a basically saying, Well, we got you a placement here or whatever, and she's like, Oh, I'm an actress now, okay. But then when they showed you the footage, I feel like, because I'm also very intuitive, that the surprise or the disgust didn't seem, I'm not gonna say that it's not, it did not seem genuine. And I think that I have, no, I waited, and I think that I have such a strong opinion on it because in one of my other lives, there's still a present life, but one of my other lives, uh, I do have an undergrad in sociology and a master's in counseling, so just the study of people and the evolution of people, and to steal with all the accomplishments that have been made, that when somebody gets mad that they want to refer to a person as an animal, after all the accomplishments, to me it's like a slap in the face. So I don't know how people is gonna react, gonna feel, hey, but those are my thoughts and opinions on it. I think that men, I don't care what kind of men you are, men should not try to speak on women. They don't need to get in men, get in women's business. Now, when it comes to parenting, yes, but I'm gonna leave it at this.

Reality TV Versus Real Life

SPEAKER_02 15:42

Anytime any black man, any white man, any anybody feel like they have something derogatory to say about black women, and they're talking about the twerkers and the people who rap about this and da-da-da-da-da-da. Remember, let me go back that out of all, and this is in the US, out of all the black women in the United States, 64.1, which is more than half. And if you were getting a grade, even though it's poor, is passing, has a bachelor's degree. 71.5, which means it's average, if you was looking at it, have master's degree, and 63.8 percent has PhD. So the black women that you see portrayed on these reality shows, um in music, in these music videos, that is not the average black woman. These numbers show that the average black mama woman is way more than you are giving her credit for, and it's time for the respect the queen. Because we are the queens, respect the queen. Remember, you can find us. Let me back up.

Where To Watch, Listen, And Support

SPEAKER_02 17:18

Let me back up. You used to confine me streaming on all these social media platforms, and my next show is gonna be about this about being dependent on social media. There's a social media platform that is just off the chain. And people were saying when Boosie lost his page, you should just do you another page. But I'm gonna get into that. But you can find us streaming live on social media, you can find us on all podcasting platforms, and you can because you know once you stream live, most places you know they lose the event and the event has ended, or whatever. You can find all my replays on Patreon. So look up Indie Artist Music Hustle with Blonde Intelligence or the tag blonde intelligence on Patreon. Subscribe, and you can listen to all the interviews, all the advice, all the thoughts, all the everything there. Um, they do have subscriber only on my podcast distribution. I hadn't used it yet, but I am, and I'm shaking a few things up.

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