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Jellybacks and Backstabbers: A Brutally Honest Take on Modern Friendships
Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence. I am your host Ms. Roni and I always seek to give you exquisite cranial repertoire. What's the difference between a true friend and someone who's just using you? Can authentic friendships exist in the cutthroat world of entertainment? These questions drive our unflinching exploration of friendship dynamics across both everyday life and the high-stakes entertainment industry.
We dive deep into the "frenemy" phenomenon—that peculiar relationship marked by public camaraderie and private rivalry. Think about those reality TV personalities who smile in your face while talking behind your back, or industry colleagues who support you only when cameras are rolling. The entertainment world magnifies these dynamics, as careers often depend on who you know and how you leverage those connections. When Jay-Z claims he and Puffy were merely "business acquaintances" rather than friends, it reveals volumes about how relationships function when fame and fortune are on the line.
The red flags of toxic friendships deserve your attention: constant criticism designed to make you feel inadequate, visible jealousy when you succeed, manipulation that positions you as the problem, attention-seeking behavior, and perhaps most telling—one-sided support where you're always giving but rarely receiving. We explore the psychology behind these dynamics and why so many of us ignore these warning signs until it's too late. Most importantly, we discuss the power of trusting your instincts. If you're constantly questioning someone's loyalty, that uncertainty itself is your answer.
Ready to evaluate your own friendships with new clarity? Listen now, and don't forget to subscribe and share your experiences in the comments. Is there someone in your life who exhibits these toxic traits? Or have you found genuine connection despite the challenges of modern relationships? We want to hear your story.
Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence. I'm your host, Blonde Intelligence, Miss Ronnie, and I always seek to give you exquisite friendlier repertoire. This week I want to talk a little bit about friendships.
Speaker 2:Regular friendships and friendships in the entertainment industry. And what brought this about was I was listening to a review of Love Hip Hop, atlanta, and somebody brought up an old clip of Michelle saying that Rashida is nobody's friend, and then the situation with her and Yandy and saying that her and Yandy wasn't friends. And I even think about when R Kelly went through what he went through, how Jay-Z and Puff Daddy kind of like distanced themselves from him and then Jay-Z saying that him and Puffy were never friends, they were just business acquaintances. So I was wondering about the types of friendships, archetypes and friendships. Archetype is a category that you can put a person or a person's actions in, so when you like no, I ain't got no type or I don't fool with that person, because they're the type of person that does X, y and Z, the type of person that does X, y and Z. So I was wondering about archetypes for friends and even some of the red flags, and if you're in a toxic friendship, because it don't always have to be a toxic relationship, but friendships can indeed be categorized into archetypes, particularly within the entertainment industry, where relationships often serve specific purposes. So I could see on some of these shows where they get paid by how much airtime they get where they may try to befriend a person and get to know them a little better so that they make it feel together. So I kind of feel like that's an ulterior motive, and I do remember Rashida saying something about I've known her for over 15 years or something like that, or so, for how many years? And she's only called me maybe 15 times out of my life or whatever, whatever, whatever. But you know, if you're not moving in the same circles, that's one thing. She was in New York, you were in Atlanta, but then when she came to Atlanta, oh, I know her, we're going to be on this show together. You know, I might want to get to know her.
Speaker 2:And so I think the issue that comes in with, especially with being friends with Rashida and the things that being said, especially with people who are in the entertainment industry, is some of these relationships are one-sided. I think that sometimes people do look for genuine relationships and the other person is only looking at what they can get out of that person. So, for example, the frenemy archetype is prevalent, where individuals may appear as friends but have an underlying competitive motive. The relationship is marked by both public camaraderie and private rivalry. This dynamic illustrates how friendships can be complex and multifaceted, often driven by ambition rather than genuine affection.
Speaker 2:And I kind of think that maybe Yandy could have let Rashida go on, except for the fact that Rashida allegedly was saying things behind Yandy's back that she wouldn't say to her face. But I also feel like you and Rashida had too many conversations about how you were feeling about her being a friend to you. I had that situation before I had a friend and I would tell him all the time to me you're not a good friend because these are the things that I do for you, but you don't do that for me. Or if somebody is speaking negatively about me and I'm not there and you know that the shit is not true, you don't speak up and say anything. So I kind of feel what Yandy was saying about. Um, she said I had stank breath and smell like a BBL or something like that. I feel like Rashida was like really out of place for that, because if Zell swag has not said that she got stank breath and a funky BBL or whatever, then it's not true on that show, because I look for the truth to come from Zell, because Zell tell it how it is, but there are some red flags in toxic relationships not relationships, friendships Red flags indicating types of relationships, including manipulation and lack of support.
Speaker 2:In the entertainment industry, we often see friendship that are transactional, where one individual uses another for personal gain. For instance, the relationship between certain search social media influencers can be superficial, where connections are based on follower counts and brand collaborations rather than authentic emotional bonds. Psychological studies indicate that friendships foster growth and positivity. When they devolve into jealousy and competition, they can become harmful. So if you have a friend that talks behind your back with their group of friends, then obviously that's not a good friend. But when they come back to you and smile all in your face and act like they didn't know what happened, such as how Rashida done when, um, the girls were coming to confront Mendeecees, I don't even feel like that was a confrontation. I feel like they just wanted to have beef with Yandy just because and a lot of that to me when women coming up out of nowhere having beef with a woman for no reason, especially on these types of shows, it's because I think naturally women get jealous of other women and that's what it was. You wrote to hate that other woman based on what this man is saying, and there's always two sides to every story.
Speaker 2:But I'm not even looking at just relationship, I'm just looking at just genuine friendship. And I feel like when a person is trying to have a genuine friendship with someone especially when it's music acting or any of those things involved music acting or any of those things involved and you're in a competitive environment to begin with, trying to get reach, trying to get airtime, trying to get all this I do think that people may, I would say, cut a person to try to get ahead, and I just feel like that never works. What did he say? When you play dirty, you never win. So you know, and I've seen it throughout my life People try to cut you, don't worry about your friendship, don't honor your feelings, even when you say something to them, and for me, that just gives you the cutoff. Hey, you don't have to believe what I say. Hey, I'm telling you that your other little groups of friends are saying and doing this. And if you're going to be a jellyback and I call a jellyback, I got that from one of the tarot readers A jellyback is a person who don't have a spine, don't stand up for themselves, would not stand up for others, would know that they're being mistreated and just sit back and let it happen.
Speaker 2:Those are toxic, toxic friendships. But toxic or jealous individuals with a friendship often exhibit behaviors that can be detrimental to the relationship. And here are some signs to look out for. So I haven't went through these to see if Rashida fit the bill on it or not, but let's just see. When Jay-Z said he's not friends with Puffy, when Rashida says she's not real friends with Yandy and even other superficial no, keep making me dance, baby. My hand and neck won't be no threat. We cool as long as you don't do this.
Speaker 2:Constant criticism If you're around somebody, they may frequently criticize you, whether it's about your behavior, your appearance or your performance, making you feel like you're not good enough. So if you're in a friendship with somebody and they always have something to say and try to make you feel like you're not good enough or they're better than you, then you're probably in a toxic, jealous friendship. Jealousy they may show you jealousy when you receive good news or when you have a positive experience, indicating that they are not happy with your success. So you can be like hey, I posted this or this right here happened to me can be like hey, I posted this or this right here happened to the other. If you have a friend that have a dry response, you may be in a toxic and jealous relationship. Oh, I keep saying relationship Friendship, even though friendship is a relationship Manipulative behavior.
Speaker 2:They may try to manipulate the situation to make you feel guilty or inferior, even if the situation is not your fault. I even call that playing the victim manipulative behavior. Oh, this right here happened to me. Or they took money out of my pocket and the reason why is because it is oh, it wasn't because you didn't stab him in the back 27,000 times. It was everything always somebody else's fault. Everything of why this didn't pan out or why this didn't make it is everybody else's fault. It's not. Let me go back to the drawing board and see why I went wrong so I can strengthen this area of weakness.
Speaker 2:So manipulative behavior, and a lot of manipulative behavior that I see is what Carly reads, in my opinion, because I feel like that Carly is not a good actress Now, when she being messy and she laughing about it and all that. I think that's the real Carly, but I'm scared that I might be locked up Because I broke in his house and I did this right here. Why are you breaking in people's houses? In a relationship for me, a person can show me that they don't want me and I don't feel the same way, no more. So if I did love you the way you treat me and make me not love you anymore.
Speaker 2:And that's where people come into the toxicity. But let's keep moving, attention seeking. They may seek your attention by making themselves the victim or constantly pointing out their own achievements, making you feel less important. And, as I said before, it was a manipulative behavior, the victimization, always being a victim. And he talked to me like this and I done, won such and such and such and such, and I was signed here and I was done there. And it's like if you have accomplishments and people messing with you, you don't have to say anything. You let yourself shine without even saying a word.
Speaker 2:Then you have one-sided support, and I don't want to be picking on people from Love Hip Hop, but that was a lot of what people were saying about Ciara that she want people to come out and support her, but when it's time for her to go out and support other people, but when it's time for her to go out and support other people that she wouldn't be there. Now that was what KK said on the show. I do think that Tiara is a genuine friend to people and she's been working on that, but I do think that she also looked down on people. But a one-sided support they may give you all the support and attention while you are doing all the giving, creating an imbalance in the friendship. Recognizing these signs can help you identify and address toxic or jealous behavior within your friendship. If you notice these behaviors, it may be time to assess the friendship and consider ways to improve the dynamic. I know I had a friend one time. Every time I did something, she wanted to do it too, and I was like I got to be looking at this role because we so cool. I don't think that she would try to be in competition with me.
Speaker 2:Being young first, getting out into the world, you have to learn to budget. Now, as you get older and make more money, your budget gets a little bigger and you decide, hey, my budget is bigger but I'm going to cut costs to make my savings bigger, and I think that some people don't get to that. But the one side of support is oh, I'm always going to your events, I'm always buying your merchandise, I'm always giving you a light, and I can't get you to do this and I felt like I had. I was in a lot of relationships with one side of support when you needed something, you would call me, but when I needed something or needed you to show me genuine support, then it wasn't there. So don't be surprised when a person quit talking to you or don't have anything else to give you or they don't know you anymore. Then that person's feelings become that victim and I don't know why we used to do such and such. Let's think about the last interaction. Who's going to stay around to get kicked over and over again, unless you are a jelly bag? But let me move back.
Speaker 2:While archetypes can help us understand friendship dynamics, it is critical to recognize the signs of toxicity, especially in environments like the entertainment industry, where authenticity is often compromised and constantly criticizing a person and you just roll with what they say and you never even think about what are the ulterior motives of this. What would this person gain by cutting this person right here? And if you're the person that's in the middle and you don't question it or do your own research, then you'll get taken advantage of every time. And I just think that with the Yandy situation, I feel like if she asked Rashida too many times, was she being loyal? How about you trust your own instinct and if you have to question it, you don't need to go in? Hey, I just need to know this. Fall back and watch and everything will reveal itself. So that's all I have to say for this week about having friendships period. Can they fall into categories?
Speaker 2:That friendships in the entertainment industry is different than friendships with regular people, although they go through the same things that if you have a friendship in the entertainment industry, you got to look at is there motives or is there gain? What is it to being that person wanting to be your friend? So I mean, I even look at it with the, the direct situation and the, the rumors that if you go work with him or he collab with you, that he's basically taken from you and leaves you with nothing. That's would be considered one side of support. As long as I can take your style, as long as I can take your lyrics, then yeah, we cool. But once everybody know and you're dried up and I need to move on to the next, I may not be your friend anymore. So I just want people to look at motives. If somebody's always bringing you a bone, why are they bringing you a bone? Are you in a jealous friendship where a person always feel like they're competing with you, where they always have to get with the crowd to go against you? Are they really applauding you or are they laughing at you?
Speaker 2:And I just think that, with Yandy having to question Rashida so many times that she should have trusted herself and fell back Because when K Michelle saw that Rashida wasn't a friend to her, it wasn't that you was going to be frenemies. No, I know I watched an interview and they were asking K Michelle if her and Rashida ever worked things out. She was like hell. No, that's a lot like how I am. If you cut me, I'm not going to keep letting you come back in my face and cut me. How about you stay over there? And if you try to box me in here, hey, I don't have to be a part of your little group because there's a whole other world out there and you stay within your little group. I don't have to be a part of your little group because there's a whole other world out there and you stay within your little group, and I don't think that people understand that when they're trying to be manipulative in friendships, but I feel like everything always comes out in the wash, and even people digging up old social media stuff going back, looking at things. Whatever the truth is, the truth is going to come out and I don't think that you have to worry about it.
Speaker 2:And, as they say, true friendships stand the test of time. But if you're in a friendship and I consider them a good friend and you've only really been getting to know them for three or four months, then it's okay to be like, hey, we might not be cool, we can just you know when we see each other, we speak, but no, I'm not going to come over your house. No, you're not going to come over mine. No, I'm not going to call and check on you and see how you're doing. Keep it superficial if that's really what it is.
Speaker 2:But I think that where people get it misconstrued with Rashida is Rashida's best friend is Kirk. Whether you like their relationship or not, that's who her best friend is. That's who her loyalty is too. And when women get in a relationship and be in a relationship that long. Most of the time their man is their best friend. So just trying to be friends with somebody because she married, I'm married, you know that's the messy shit right there, because when one person is unhappy, if they're a manipulative friend, they're gonna try to cause problems in your relationship too. So I just want everybody to look at that in toxicity in your own friendships and I guess I pundit a question Can there really be any real authentic relationships in the entertainment industry? But that's all I got for you today and I will talk to you next week. Bye.
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